David had great problems finding nice women to date. He always chose to date women who he was sure are not “marriage material.” In EMT, we found out it was related to a traumatic past lifetime in England in the 18th century.
Strangely enough, even though David declared that he did not believe in past lives, when we started checking for where the trauma occurred, he immediately said “England.” He did not know where this knowledge came to him. He said it was just a lucky guess. Yet, he again “guessed” he was a woman in that lifetime and that the trauma was related to fire. He did not see anything in his mind’s eye, just said these things. When this was confirmed with muscle testing, he could no longer explain it as a guess. He then stated it was “intuition.” I explained all the knowledge of past lifetimes held in the Akashic records were totally available to his innate/higher self.
We proceeded with muscle testing to get more details and between the information for EMT and David’s “intuition,” we found out that David was a woman in that lifetime. After her marriage and having three children, she found out that her husband was homosexual, and he left her alone, as he traveled with his lover.
David was totally exhausted between working to put bread on the table and taking care of the kids, that one night he fell asleep while a candle was still burning. The house caught fire, and David and the kids died in the fire.
Here again, we can see how much easier this technique is over hypnotic regression. As even though we discovered the essential details of the trauma, David had only fleeting visions with no emotional or physical pain.
“Trauma in England, 18th century” – weak muscle.
“I want to release the trauma” – weak muscle.
“I deserve to release the trauma” – weak muscle.
“My husband deserves for me to release the trauma” – weak muscle.
“His lover deserves for me to release the trauma” – strong muscle.
“God deserves for me to release the trauma” – strong muscle.
“It is safe for me to release the trauma” – weak muscle.
David stated it made total sense to him that he blamed himself for causing the fire, that he blamed his then-husband for abandoning him, leaving him alone with the kids without any financial support; and, of course, it was dangerous for him to release the trauma. He was afraid that should he release the trauma he would be exposed to the danger that he would again marry the wrong person and the tragedy may reoccur.
After we removed all types of subconscious sabotage, we finally got a strong muscle with: “There is 100% subconscious support for me to release the trauma.” Yet, the muscle was still weak with, “Trauma in England in the 18th century.”
We used Visual Field/Kinesiology to treat the persistent negative energy of this trauma, and afterwards, the muscle became strong when we checked for “This trauma.”
After that clearing, David started dating “potentially better candidates,” as he put it, and hopes to find “Mrs. Right” in the near future.
It is of note that removing sabotage to anything does not guarantee that you’ll get what you want, but at least you won’t sabotage yourself getting it.
Joe came to me after he could not secure work as an actor in spite of the fact that he was very talented, with a degree in theater and film from the very best universities. He had a good agent that sent him to quite a few auditions. He felt he somehow managed not to give his best in auditions.
We checked if he had some kind of subconscious sabotage. Joe believed that this was a result of past life trauma. So, we checked muscle strength with the affirmation: “I have a past life trauma related to acting” – strong muscle, “yes.” We narrowed it down to Ireland in the beginning of the 20th century. “I was a woman then” – strong muscle, “yes.” “I was an actress” – strong muscle, “yes.” “Trauma in Ireland in the 20th century” – weak muscle. Indeed, this trauma still affected Joe energetically.
After this session, Joe had a dream when he was a successful actress, who was very successful but then became an alcoholic and had a traumatic death. He decided to Google for famous Irish actresses in the beginning of the 20th century. He found out the story of Molly Allgood, who was a brilliant actress at Abbey Theater in Dublin. Two of her closest relations died, and she became an alcoholic and died from burns she received after falling into the fireplace of her home.
Joe was, to some degree, shocked by it, but on the other hand, it explained to him his previous fascination with everything Irish, and his intolerance of people who drink alcohol. As a small child, he could not stand when his parents were drinking and gave them hell, screaming for them not to drink. He also was afraid to get close to the fireplace. So now that Joe knew the trauma and the early death of her fiancé and then her husband, we were able to proceed with testing and releasing the subconscious sabotage to release the trauma.
When he stated, “I want to release the trauma” – muscle was weak, “no.”
“I deserve to release the trauma” – weak muscle, “no.”
We also found out with muscle testing that his father in that lifetime as Molly, did not deserve it, as he was a strict Protestant who condemned his girl’s love of song and dance. He died when she was 10, and she was put in an orphanage.
John Synge, the playwright, was in love with her, and they were engaged against his family’s wishes. However, he died shortly thereafter, and she was heartbroken. So, when we checked “Synge deserves for me to get over this trauma,” again the muscle was weak, “no, he did not deserve.” Her brother also did not deserve for her, as he died in 1915 in World War I. She started to drink after his death, as she was very attached to him.
Molly’s first husband, Mair, a journalist, died suddenly in 1926, and he, too, did not deserve for her to release the trauma. Her second husband, the actor Sinclair, divorced her, and her son died in a plane crash in 1942. All of those did not deserve for Joe/Molly to get over the trauma, except for Sinclair, who for whatever unknown reason did not sabotage the release of the trauma. In his case, as we were able to find the actual previous past life for Joe (or the trauma in the collective unconscious, for those who do not believe in past lives), we were able to remove these blockages with detailed and specific Forgiveness Affirmations that were very effective to remove the sabotage even with Short Forgiveness Affirmations.
Joe was able to forgive Molly’s fiancé, first husband, brother, and son for dying by saying the following forgiveness affirmation: “I forgive you for dying on me and causing me such terrible heartache. It is not logical to be angry at people for dying, and therefore I had to suppress the anger. I choose to release this anger and forgive you, as I knew it was not your choice, and you did not intend to break my heart by dying.”
This was enough to turn the weak muscle to strong, when we re-checked for: “My brother deserves for me to release the trauma.” “My fiancé deserves for me to release the trauma.” “My son deserves for me to release the trauma.” “My first husband deserves for me to release the trauma.”
We then returned to do a more detailed Forgiveness Affirmation for Molly’s father. “I forgive my father for being so strict and for not allowing me and my sisters to sing and dance. I also forgive him for dying when I was 10 and causing me to be put in an orphanage.”
Forgiveness Affirmation for herself, Joe/Molly, stated the following: “I choose to forgive myself for starting to drink after the death of my brother in 1915. I was so sad, and I had to continue acting, so alcohol helped me numb the pain.
“I forgive myself for marrying Sinclair only six months after the death of Mair. I knew we were not good for each other, but I was afraid to be alone, and I forgive myself for that.
“I forgive myself for not being careful and falling into the fireplace. I was drunk at that time, and I forgive myself.”
Now, the muscle was still weak when re-checking for “I deserve to get over the trauma,” and Joe, knowing the biography of Molly, started to think what else needed to be covered. Finally, he said: “I forgive myself for not being more supportive and in touch with my sister. She was jealous of me and my acting career. She was also a brilliant actress, but I did not make any effort to be in touch.” Still a weak muscle, so back we went to look for more feelings of guilt and/or shame, or not feeling good enough.
We tried: “I forgive myself for fighting a lot with Synge and for not pushing him to marry me earlier. I forgive myself for not pursuing education and for not being more involved in politics.”
Now the muscle was strong when we checked, “I deserve to get over this trauma”. It was also strong with “Others deserve for me to get over this trauma.” But, it was weak with “God deserves for me to get over this trauma.”
We tried: “I forgive God for all the tragedies I had during my lifetime, for taking away the people that I loved, for allowing so many people to kill each other during this terrible war. I choose to understand that God is not the God I was taught about in school, the punishing father figure. I choose to believe that God is giving men free will and that God is just pure intelligence, unconditional love, and is not intervening in the course of life.”
The muscle was now strong with “God deserves for me to release this trauma,” but was weak with “It is safe for me to release this trauma.”
Joe started looking back at his past life as Molly and thought that maybe holding on to the trauma guaranteed that he won’t drink when feeling devastated, will be kind and supportive to fellow actors, and will be careful around fire.
He came up with the affirmation: “I choose to believe that I can do all of these without needing to hold on to this trauma. I don’t like to drink. I can be kind and supportive and loving to the people close to me and careful around fire and around other potentially dangerous things. So, I choose to believe it is safe for me to release this trauma, and this is my choice.”
Now, the muscle was strong when re-checking, “It is safe for me to release this trauma.” It was also strong with, “I can imagine myself releasing this trauma right away;” with, “There is 100% subconscious support to release this trauma;” and also with, “I want to release this trauma.”
However, it was weak when we checked: “Trauma in Ireland, 20th century.” We checked EMT for different types of interventions to release the energy of the trauma. “Visual Field/Kinesiology” was strong, so we proceeded. It took a long time, about nine minutes, but as all muscles in the visual field became strong, we knew we were done. Indeed, the muscle was strong when we re-checked “Trauma in Ireland, 20th century.”
Joe’s felt that his performance during auditioning significantly improved and his acting career was on the rise.
Debra was a successful business woman, owning her own IT company. Yet, from her early childhood, she wanted to compose music. She felt extremely frustrated when all her attempts to compose were unsuccessful. She knew she was talented, yet she would start composing and could not complete any composition.
We found out using Energy Muscle Testing (EMT) that the block was a result of a past life trauma in France in the 18th century. Debra had no idea and no memories. She even was not sure she believes in past lives.
We proceeded using EMT to narrow down more details of the trauma. It came out that in that lifetime, she was a man, a successful composer who was murdered by another less successful musician because of jealousy. So, of course, it was unsafe for Debra to be a successful composer, as long as the trauma still affected her energetically.
With muscle testing, we found weak muscle with “The murderer deserves for me to release this trauma,” and “It is safe for me to release it.” We corrected both by using the Forgiveness Affirmations. Afterwards, we got a strong muscle both with, “I have 100% subconscious support to release the trauma,” and “Trauma in France in the 18th century.” This meant we were done, and the trauma successfully removed. After that, Debra was able to finally finish a few of the sonatas she was stuck with before.
Amanda had a great fear of chickens that did not make any sense to her. She never had any trauma with chickens during her childhood. Yet, the fear was so overwhelming, and she would freeze with terror and panic even when she was near a chicken in a cage or when seeing a poster of a chicken.
We then decided to do energy muscle testing with the affirmation: “There is a past life trauma connected with chickens.” Muscle strong, “yes.”
We then narrowed it down to Italy in the 16th century. She was a woman then. Amanda then said she was having some vague memories, seeing herself pregnant in a barn. We then checked muscle strength with the affirmation: “Trauma in Italy in the 16th century, and the muscle was weak, indicating that this trauma still affects Amanda and weakens her energetically.
We continued using EMT to narrow down the narrative of the trauma. It came out that Amanda was a servant girl, and the son of the master of the house had sex with her, and then when she became pregnant sent her away.
She was walking from village to village. It was winter and snowing when she gave birth in a barn. She was so exhausted that she slept, only to discover that chickens were pecking her baby to death. She ended up freezing to death and in emotional agony.
Amanda actually had vivid pictures of the barn and the chickens pecking her baby. Yet, there was no emotional load with those memories, only an understanding why she was so terrified of chickens.
“I want to release this trauma” – muscle weak, “no.”
“I want to keep this trauma” – muscle strong, “yes”.
This made no sense to Amanda, but I explained this was because there was subconscious sabotage to release the trauma, and we continued to narrow it down: “I deserve to release the trauma” – weak muscle, “no,” she did not deserve, showing she felt shame or guilt or feeling she was not good enough. “Others deserve for me to release the trauma,” weak muscle, showing “no,” they don’t deserve it, indicating subconscious feelings of anger, hatred, and vindictiveness.
We checked for “The father of the baby deserves for me to release the trauma” – weak muscle, meaning no he did not deserve. This was as expected, as he seduced her and then dumped her.
“My parents deserve for me to release the trauma” – weak muscle – “no,” they did not deserve, as they did not accept her back into their home and disowned her for being a “whore.”
There was also weak muscle when we checked: “God deserves for me to release the trauma.” What kind of God is allowing all these terrible things to happen?
When we checked, “It is safe for me to release this trauma,” the muscle also was weak, showing Amanda subconsciously felt holding on to the trauma was protecting her in some way.
We proceeded with the Forgiveness Affirmation to correct all types of sabotage, and we finally got a strong muscle with the affirmation, “There is a 100% subconscious support for me to release the trauma.” Yet, when we re-checked muscle strength with “Trauma in Italy in the 16th century,” the muscle was still weak, indicating that even though there was no longer sabotage to release the trauma, the energy of the trauma still affected Amanda.
Muscle testing showed that Visual Field/Kinesiology was the optimal way to correct that energetic effect. After we completed it, the muscle became strong when we re-checked for “The trauma in Italy in the 16th century.” This showed the trauma was completely removed, but I still wanted to see results in Amanda’s life. A few months later, Amanda went with a group of friends to the Hawaiian Island of Kauai, where hens and roosters roam free, and she was completely free of anxiety.
You can also see a demonstration of the Visual Field/Kinesiology here.
Robert came to see me because he was obsessed with a former girlfriend, Melissa, who ended their relationship after a few months of dating. He could not stop thinking about her, made efforts to meet with her, wrote her texts and emails, called her, and felt he could not live without her. The strange thing is, he said, he was not in love with her. She was not the first girlfriend who broke up with him, so it was not a result of a wounded ego.
While dating, the relationship was not good. They were impatient and irritated with each other. So, Robert could not possibly explain his obsession. It was totally out of proportion and had no logical explanation. He came to me, as he suspected it involved a past life trauma.
We used Energy Muscle Testing (EMT) with the affirmation “My obsession with Melissa is a result of a past life trauma” – strong muscle, meaning “yes.” We proceeded with EMT to narrow down the place and time and found out it happened in Spain in the 18th century. Robert was the husband, and Melissa was his wife then, and they had three children. The affirmation, “trauma in Spain, 18th century,” brought a weak muscle, confirming the trauma still weakens Robert energetically.
We started by trial and error, playfully checking muscle strength with different possible scenarios. We found out that Melissa then was a gypsy girl, and Robert was an affluent land owner. She put a spell on him to make him be attracted to her. He married her against advice of his family. Then she found a lover and ended up steadily poisoning Robert and the children.
Robert now understood that he was still attracted to her because of the spell that was never removed. They had “unfinished business,” and there was still “bad blood” between them.
We a found weak muscle with “I want to release this trauma.”
“I deserve to release this trauma” – strong muscle, “yes.”
“Melissa deserves for me to release this trauma” – weak muscle, “no.”
We combined the Forgiveness Affirmation for Melissa with affirmations to remove the spell: “Even though Melissa does not deserve to be forgiven, I choose to forgive her for my own sake. Carrying this anger in my subconscious for so many years never hurt Melissa; it hurts me, and I was and still am the victim of Melissa’s actions. So, I choose to stop victimizing myself, and the only way I have to do it is by forgiving her.
“I don’t have any excuse for Melissa’s actions. She was a gypsy girl, had nothing much as a girl, and was instructed in doing spells to achieve what she wanted; in this case she wanted to be comfortable financially. I choose to forgive her for that. What is more difficult to forgive is the fact she killed me and our three children so she could be free to live happily with her lover. This is, indeed, unforgivable. I choose to believe that she paid heavily for this terrible karma in subsequent lifetimes. I choose to believe that justice is always being done. It is also about time that I remove the spell she put on me; and for that, I need to sever all energetic connections I have with Melissa and therefore remove this trauma. For that, I have to forgive her. And even though I feel I could never possibly forgive her as Robert; there is a part of me – my spiritual self – who maybe can forgive.
“I choose to forgive Melissa for everything, she might have done that contributed to this trauma, either consciously or subconsciously, either deliberately or by negligence. I choose to release all negative emotions; negative thoughts; negative perceptions judgments; all negative attitudes and behaviors; all negative imprints, imaginations, and vows.
“I choose to release all energy traces of my curse, spells, and witchcraft from my entire body, every single cell, and from my personal space. I choose to believe that Melissa deserves for me to release this trauma, and this is my choice.
I choose to forgive myself for carrying this negativity in my subconscious for so many years and sabotaging any ability to release this trauma. I was not even aware I was doing it, so, I forgive myself. And even though I may not feel that I can ever be able even to start forgiving Melissa, I choose to connect with my higher self, whose essence is unconditional love, acceptance, forgiveness, compassion, and mercy”.
Now we re-checked: “Melissa deserves for me to release the trauma” – strong muscle, “yes.”
“God deserves for me to release the trauma” – strong muscle, “yes.”
“I can imagine myself releasing the trauma right away” – strong muscle, “yes.”
“There is 100% subconscious support for me to release the trauma” – strong muscle, “yes.”
Now we are back to checking: “Trauma in Spain in 18th century.” The muscle again was strong; indicating this trauma no longer weakens Robert energetically.
Finally, we checked, “The spell is removed” – strong muscle, “yes.”
Just to be on the safe side, we also checked “There is still energy of the spell Melissa put on me” – muscle weak, “no.” Now we know we were done.
And, indeed, Robert was happy to report the obsession with Melissa completely disappeared.
Jennifer came with her husband, who complained that his wife is being passive during their sex. She never initiates. She just “lies there” letting him do with her as he pleases. It is a complete turn-off for him.
After we took a complete history and found no problem and no trauma causing Jennifer’s attitude towards sex, we decided to use Energy Muscle Testing (EMT), The tested muscle was strong when we tested with the affirmation: “It is related to past life trauma.”
I gave a talk at the 2016 TEDxBGU at Ben Gurion University on Subconscious Sabotage. Enjoy!
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According to Karatzias T et al, (2011) EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) was somewhat superior to EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) in treatment of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
Many types of eye movements have been used to treat trauma other than EMDR: Rapid Eye Technology (RET), Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), Eye Movement Integration (EMI) and Eye Pattern Release.
Some researchers suggested that the eye movements in EMDR was unnecessary and using tones or bilateral stimulation such as the butterfly hug were as effective. Yet, this is not the case. Van Den Hout et al ( 2012) found tones inferior to eye movements in the EMDR treatment of PTSD.
The Trauma Therapist Podcast features many other of the world’s leading master therapists, thought leaders and game-changers who specialize in PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder, trauma and complex trauma and related fields. Guy Macpherson, PhD hosts these inspiring interviews about the demanding field of trauma therapy, the crucial mistakes they’ve made and what they’ve learned, and advice they have for aspiring trauma therapists. (more…)
Here is my conversation with Constance Arnold on the Think, Believe and Manifest Show:
The 2nd part of the show features Dr. Daphna Slonim, MD – Author – How to Remove Subconscious Sabotage. You will discover the super simple and amazing techniques that will enable you to quickly eliminate blockages and go from frustration to liberating freedom.
There was more development regarding the client with a past life in Japan that I wrote about in my previous blog.
Just to remind you, Mary was cleared by my Visual Field/Kinesiology Field for trauma in Japan where she was a dancer and a concubine of the emperor. When the emperor discovered she was a Zen student, he exiled her teacher and executed his students.
After her sabotage to spiritual development was released, she had another block. This time she presented the complaint that her business is not advancing as expected, and she cannot break through a glass ceiling and become more famous and financially successful.
We found out she had weak muscle (sabotage) when we checked, “It is safe for me to be famous.” She was puzzled by it, and by using muscle testing we further narrowed it down to the fear that being successful and famous would jeopardize her marriage. Again, we found it was related to some past life in Japan. (more…)
Here is my conversation with Patrick Timpone on The Morning Show on One Radio Network:
How to Remove Past Life Trauma Without Traumatizing Yourself All Over Again By Re-experiencing It.
Past life regression became popular by Dr. Bryan Weiss, using hypnosis.
However, this method is excruciatingly painful, as you need, in the hypnotic trance, to experience the previous trauma and death.
Now there is a technique that allows you to find past life trauma that blocks you, and release is totally pain-free. (more…)
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) became increasingly popular recently because it is, indeed, effective and at the same time very easy to use. However, there are also a lot of reports that it is not as effective as it was reported to be.
EFT founder, Gary Craig, blamed it on the fact that the technique is practiced by people who were not appropriately trained according to the “Gold Standard”, as dictated by him.
While I agree, I think there maybe another reason altogether. This is because I am very well trained in Gary’s (brilliant) methods, and still have only 40% success rate using purely E.F.T.
In my years of practice I became entirely convinced that people cannot completely heal, achieve any goal, or have the Law of Attraction work for them, if they have subconscious self sabotage. (more…)
My interview on Web Talk Radio’s Relationship Revelation with Larry Bilotta on Subconscious Sabotage to Relationship. (plus transcript below) (more…)
let’s look at some specific examples of salespersons sabotaging their sales:
Judy had a fear of making presentations. She was feeling extremely uncomfortable when she needed to present to even a small group of people. She was fidgeting, could not think clearly. Her mouth was cotton dry and she had heart palpitations. Using muscle testing we found out that when she was at age 5 she spoke with a lisp and the children laughed at her. She was humiliated when she was taken out of the class by a speech therapist.
After we pinpointed the cause we were able to remove this painful memory and its impact by using my Sabotage Correcting Technique (SCT). She now makes presentations to large groups of people and was able to secure a better paying job as a result. (more…)
My article “Applied Kinesiology as a Tool to Bring a Paradigm Shift in Psychology” was featured in the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology’s Energy Field online Publication and I wanted to share it here on my blog as well.
To read or download the article click here:
Applied Kinesiology as a Tool to Bring a Paradigm Shift in Psychology
For more from ACEP visit: http://www.energypsych.org/