Fear of success is as prevalent as fear of failure and is one of the main reasons why a lot of people are not fulfilling and maximizing their potential.
Most of the time, the fear of success is subconscious. As such it has much power. When the enemy is unknown it can stab you in the back. When you shed the light of awareness over it you can rationally examine it, face it, debate it and dismiss it or use my SCT (Sabotage Correction Technique) to remove it.
In my years of practice I found quite a few flavors and sub-flavors of the fear of success.
A lot of people are subconsciously and even consciously afraid of the responsibilities that come with success. They are afraid success would take away too much time from fun, recreation and social activities. They fear that the time required achieving (and maintaining) success would interfere with their quality of life. They’ll have less time to sleep, exercise, and eat right or play. They may lose sleep worrying about losing it all.
Is the Law of Attraction working for you?
It always does. It is a Universal law.
But what exactly are you attracting?
You say positive affirmations.
You work hard. You visualize yourself as a millionaire.
You create Dream Boards, like they showed in The Secret.
Still nothing much is happening.
Do you stop believing in the Law of Attraction?
Or maybe you subconsciously sabotage yourself?
Are the magnets in your subconscious attracting something else?
Okay, you may not be aware of it, but if there is something disruptive in your subconscious about making money, you are not going to be successful at making it.
You’ll find many excuses. You may think it is because you are not focused enough, that you don’t do enough research, that there is too much information etc., etc.
What is going on underneath the surface? (more…)
Do you sabotage yourself out of having the best orgasms ever?
This time I would like to address the subject of female orgasms and how to remove subconscious sabotage to reaching the best orgasms or multiple orgasms.
At another time I’ll address the issue of male orgasm, as the sabotage is different to a great extent, when we are looking at subconscious issues.
For example, whereas men would be inhibited, consciously or subconsciously with insecurity about penis size, potency, premature or delayed ejaculation, or fears about being emasculated or tricked, women are more concerned with fear of physical brutality, rape, pregnancy etc.
Of course there are fears that are common to both genders: Fear of rejection, of STD’s, of not appearing normal, of losing control, of being abandoned, manipulated, shamed, ridiculed, exploited and many more.
Remember sex is not in your body—sex is in your mind—and it is not what you consciously think about it, but what your subconscious has to say. So if there is something in your subconscious that says sex is bad for whatever reason, you are not going to get pleasure and satisfaction in your sex life.
So, how to proceed with detecting sabotage? (more…)
The fear of public speaking is very prevalent. At least 40% of the people in the U.S. admit they dread to speak in public. There are numerous public speaking classes, courses, and public speaking trainings, including Toast Masters, that attempt to address this issue. Yet, I am convinced that none of the approaches are going to be optimally efficient, if you have subconscious sabotage to public speaking.
Public speaking fears do indeed appear to be the number one social fear held by Americans. Speaking up in meetings or in class is a close second.
The fear of public speaking also has economical implications. 60% of people get turned down for a job because they don’t have good enough communication skills.
In my 35 years of psychiatric practice I treated many patients with severe social phobia. I tried a variety of treatment modalities including medications, cognitive behavioral psychotherapy and even hypnosis, with only limited success. Then it occurred to me to use Energy Muscle Testing to test for subconscious sabotage. Using my Sabotage Correction Technique (SCT) to remove the sabotage enabled most patients to finally get rid of their fear.
I had quite a few patients in my practice, which had the same pattern of yo-yo diets: losing weight and gaining it all back, and repeating the cycle over and over, before giving up.
Working with them I found through Energy Muscle Testing (EMT), that they all had subconscious sabotage to losing weight.
Usually the sabotage was connected to being sexually molested in the past.
Oprah’s sexual molestation has been public knowledge, as she freely spoke about it. I would be very curious to have the opportunity to muscle test Oprah to see what type of subconscious sabotage she has.
The most common types are related to:
- “I don’t deserve to lose weight” – shame and guilt.
- “The perpetrator does not deserve that I’ll lose weight” – anger.
- “It is unsafe for me to lose weight” – fear of being attractive and end up again as a sexual object.
Have one person stand with their back in front of another few friends. Have this person raise one hand to the side and check muscle strength. The muscle should be strong.
Instruct the group that when you signal them, (behind this person’s back) with your thumb down, they should send this person (in their mind) bad energy. For example: think how weak he is, or how insignificant etc. When you make them a thumb up signal they should have loving and supporting thoughts.
Now, make a thumb down signal and check the muscle again. It becomes very weak.
Make a thumb up signal and see the muscle now strong.
When you are done with this friend, stand yourself with your back to the group, and have another person be the tester, signaling behind your back and testing the muscle of your stretched arm.
IT IS TOTALLY AMAZING but it is true.
Sometimes, people die, when using these drugs. Sometimes, E.D. is just a way warning you that you have to look into the underlying problem.
Take for example Abraham, who started to have problems with having erections after two years of being happily married. He had all urological tests being normal. He was able to have sex after taking Cialis or Viagra, but his wife felt that he was no longer attracted to her, as he could not perform without Viagra. She took it personally. It caused marital problems. This is how he got to see me.
My first suspicion, of course, was that Abraham was angry with his wife, and that this was his sub-conscious way to “punish” her. I was ready to bet that on Energy Muscle Testing (EMT) his muscle would be week when testing for “My wife deserves for me to be potent”.